I wrote a first post - an accolade to a writer  that had had the courage to work in media for about 65 years in South Asia (first woman newspaper editor in that country - after Independence from British) ....and had been forthright and open, even surprising people and challenging cultural status quo in little ways). But when i phoned her, she was livid angry about genealogy i had done, and put on the web. That is why i had met her/heard about her in the first place. It was not the reaction i expected when i phoned her long distance to say that i had written a delightful post about her.  I was so frightened, that i deleted it all. No problem solving, no hearing my side of the story......  never expected such.